Monday, November 05, 2007

More complaining about daycare

Yesterday I was on my laptop, casually looking at houses for sale in a particular area where I’ve found a job posting. Gracelin came over to sit on my lap and to see what I was looking at. She sat with me and watched the slideshow for a house for sale, that just so happened to have a very cute, pink girls’ bedroom. She commented to me that she’d like to live there, and then she added, “I want to move far away to somewhere that I don’t have to go to daycare anymore”.

So often G doesn't want to go. She will beg me in the mornings to be able to stay at home with me, or to come to work. It is so hard for me to convince her to go, when I really don't want to have to take her there.

Its been a rough few days with daycare for all of us. On Thursday when I picked up the girls, it was really bad. I got G first, and her shoes and coat were no where to be found. She and I searched the center for a good 5 minutes before one of the high school girls who are there in the afternoon commented that she may have left her stuff out on the playground. I had G wait inside while I ran outside. And there was her coat and shoes on the playground, her socks no where to be found (did I mention that it was freezing cold outside?)

Then, we headed upstairs to the baby room to pick up Brynlee. She was standing at the gate looking very sad. As soon as she saw me, she started to cry. She told me “owie bum. Change me”. I picked her up and could immediately tell that she was poopie. I took her over to the changing table, and took off her diaper - only to notice that she had the most horrible diaper rash. She screamed as I changed her – it hurt so badly that she was physically shaking from the pain as I wiped her. It broke my heart to have to hurt her like that, but I had to clean her up. It was awful.

I left that place really upset that my kids aren’t being taken care of better. Is it too much to ask that they have their coats and shoes on outside? Its November, and really cold. And I hate to think how long poor Bryn was sitting in that dirty diaper. Obviously she is able to communicate that she wants a diaper change. I feel that it is negligence that her diaper rash was that bad.

I feel as if I’m literally at the breaking point. Something has got to change, but no matter how much sleep I lose at night, I cannot figure out what we’re going to do. Short of me getting a higher paying job out of state so that daddy can stay at home with the girls. I have applied for a couple of jobs so far, and plan to apply for one more that I found yesterday. All of the jobs really are a stretch for me though, and I'll be suprised if I actually get an interview. It would be sad to leave our extended family and friends. But I really feel that its for the good of our kids.

8 comments:

The Gatherum Family said...

that really sucks, really, really, really sucks. I can't imagine. Have you checked into "home" daycares? I don't know much about daycare, but I have friends who take their kids to people's houses and feel a lot better about it...I hope you can figure something out. Adrian

Christie said...

Ah yes, home daycare. Sadly we've been that route too and had even worse experiences. The day I showed up to find my sweet 6 month old baby girl under a pile of couch cushions and pillows with a 3 year old on top and no adult in the room, I decided that a commercial center was the way to go. Daycare just sucks any way you look at it.

The Gatherum Family said...

I am sorry-it really does and ya know, it shouldn't...it should not be so difficult for mom's to work...whether they have to or not you know? Well, I hope you can figure something out...not fun

Jess T said...

I'm fortunate to have a good daycare/preschool. They are silly when it comes to her clothing changes, etc., but I know she is cared for. I'd be the first to complain if I didn't think so.

Maybe you should move them. I was abused in private in-home care so, I am hesitant to put mine in that situation. It can happen anywhere. Have you started the surprise pop-ins again? You should.

Jan said...

I'm sorry, Christie!! It's so hard when your little ones are not being taken care of -- and I agree, it seems that something has to change. Hang in there -- you'll find the right answer!

Jen said...

I have always had my daughter in in-home care. We had 2 wonderful situations and one that wasn't terrible but just not right. I have always gone with my gut and the one time I didn't trust it was the time we ended up in a bad situation. Things can look good on the surface (clean home, nice people) but you just have to trust your gut instinct. We moved my daughter to another in-home situation that has been absolutely ideal. It was a hard decision to make to move her but definitely the right one. It definitely sounds like it is time to start exploring other options. My suggestion is to talk to as many other moms as you can, friends, at the grocery store, pediatricians office etc. You might find out about a school or in-home daycare that is great but kind of under the radar. Good luck, I know how hard it is when you don't trust where you leave your child each day. It just tears a mommy up inside.

Erin said...

Is it possible for your husband to get a part time job at night when you're home and quit his full-time job so he could be home with the girls during the day? It really sounds like you need to get the girls out of that place.

Christie said...

THe plan is actually for my husband to stay at home with the girls, but to be able to go to school at night. That is why I've been job hunting. Hopefully soon they can stay at home. Daycare isn't all bad though. They do have good friends there, and they learn a lot. Socially its been good for them. ITs just hard, because no one takes as good care of them as mommy.